Well, it has come and gone, high school graduation day for my youngest ducklings. It was yesterday and yes, it was wonderful, all 97 degrees of it! Add the week of steady graduation parties, the All Night Grad Party (I worked the roulette table) and work into the mix and it is a miracle I can even type.
When you think about it, any kind of graduation day is really just the beginning of a “new normal”. Any moment after the actual graduation is the beginning of a new phase of life.
It is a bittersweet moment. This is supposed to be the way life progresses, this is what you have been preparing for since they were wee babens. I am so happy for them, they are so ready for their new adventure. I am so happy for myself, I don’t have to make school lunches anymore (that countdown began about 18 months ago) and I know they are going to thrive. I know my girls are the whole package – smart, pretty, kind and funny (if I do say so myself). I am more than a little sad that the daily fun and games will be different in a few months when we aren’t all together but I also know they come back. Number 1 daughter will be home from Australia at the end of the month and we will be a full house again. She will be 21 at the end of the summer! I guess part of this is realizing a chapter of my life is closing as a chapter of their life is just beginning. I will be a part of the new chapter, but not like I have been for the past 18 years. I am ready, I have a busy full life but I sure have loved being a mom.
Mia bella bambinas.
Daughters #3 and #2 at a dance recital, probably 1st or 2nd grade.
Graduations tend to bring out the pearls of wisdom on the secrets of life speeches from anyone over the age of 22.
There are a couple that I have taken to heart and actually try to live by. One would be “try to enjoy every second”. I know that is not possible, but I love the message and I think it is always worth making the effort. My second pearl of wisdom came from tragedy. Several years ago when a very dear friend of mine died and I was quite inconsolable, my mother in law said to me, “life is for the living, GO LIVE, go enjoy the process of life” that is what Andi, my friend would have wanted. True words to be sure. My third pearl of wisdom is quite possibly the most important and I believe all three of my children have this gift instilled deep within their souls, it is a secret weapon. If you don’t have one, acquire a sense of humor. I am not saying take life lightly or for granted, I am saying when life is at it’s worst, when it is really hard, remember that it is only a moment, it will pass and when it does, it is ok to find the bright side, to reclaim your sense of humor. That secret weapon alone can see you through many a hard day. Enough lecturing! School is out for summer!
Without further adieu, some useful and useless pearls of wisdom.
Ladies and gentlemen, take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice – MRS. JONES (an odd comment to be sure, not always well received, try to think about your audience).
For those of you that do not enjoy the ice or try to time your comments to opportune moments, here are some more pearls.
If you think you are too small to be effective, you have never been in bed with a mosquito. – BETTE REESE
Even if you are on the right track, you will get run over if you just sit there. – WILL ROGERS
You will find the key to success under the alarm clock. – BENJAMIN FRANKLIN
The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking places. – UNKNOWN. I think we could change that to include, happy hours or FACing. In the college parlance of my day, Friday Afternoon Clubbing.
Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction. – AL BERNSTEIN
Minds are like parachutes – they only function when open. – THOMAS DEWAR
The unfortunate, yet truly exciting thing about your life, is that there is no core curriculum. The entire place is an elective. – JON STEWART
You’re going to fall down, but the world doesn’t care how many times you fall down, as long as it’s one fewer than the numbers of times you get back up. – AARON SORKIN
Sigh. Later mashed potaters!